I (Connie) felt the babies move for the first time on Saturday evening. I’ve wanted to write about it since it happened, but honestly, when I think about it I kind of go speechless. (I know, hard for you to believe that I’m speechless…lol) But, I’m going to put some thoughts down and we’ll see if they make any sense.
Now, I know that the creation of life can be explained scientifically. We’ve watched the videos – National Geographic was especially informative. But, there are aspects of this phenomenon that, while maybe not miraculous, leave me awestruck. One egg. One sperm. They carry everything needed to create a being so complex that we can’t replicate it with technology – not exactly. Emotions. Reasoning. Fluid movement. But before any of that, three sets of fingers and toes. Three noses. Six eyes and ears. It is a truly amazing process.
Life. It’s a state that distinguishes us from inanimate objects. We are incubating three lives. We will provide the necessities for them to sustain this state.
Live. To have an exciting or fulfilling life. This…we’ll invest the most here – and I don’t mean money or things. We’ll give our hearts and souls to guide them in a manner that allows them to discover how to live.
In this moment, though, I live for the flutters created by their movement and the flutters of excitement in my own stomach when I think about this wild adventure we’re undertaking.
Have you ever created a baby registry? Diane and I decided to create registries at two places: Amazon and Target. We opted for this because most of our family and friends live miles away from us. So, we figured that online shopping would be easier for folks. Prior to our first ultrasound we did some research, found some lists for first time parents. Anyone who knows us will not be surprised that our next step was to create an Excel spreadsheet with items, which we divided into categories like clothes, feeding, travel, etc. The early conversations included a lot of “oh we need one of those”.
Once we found out that three is our magic number we had to revisit that spreadsheet. Diane did more research and found recommendations from other parents of multiples regarding what is needed to care for three babies. Then the conversations changed to Diane saying things like “we need 8 of those per baby” and me saying “seriously?!” and changing the numbers on the spreadsheet. At first it felt a lot like ‘holy cow’. But, then, once the numbers were in the spreadsheet and we actually started creating the registries we saw the silver lining.
Individuals who create a baby registry for one baby have to make A LOT of choices. Which blanket is the cutest? Which bouncer looks like the most fun? What color of onesies do we want? There is great freedom in fewer decisions my friends! Suddenly she picked what she wanted, I picked what I wanted AND we got to pick more – of a lot of things.
There’s a bright side to everything – and when you’re blessed with the magic of three it gets really easy to see.
As Hunger Games fans Diane and I have heard and said this sentence many times. We had no idea how it would play out in our lives until an ultrasound on September 22, 2015. But, let me back up just a bit in the storytelling.
On August 25th, 2015 Diane underwent our first round of artificial insemination. During the two-week waiting period before we could do a pregnancy test she read a lot of information about the chances of success on the first try, having multiples, etc. Logically we thought that having twins would be great. We wanted more than one child and with twins we could accomplish that decision at once. Realistically, though, we knew that there was a possibility that the first attempt would not work. Heck, the second and third attempt might not work. So, we put the idea of multiples out of our heads and focused our hope on a single pregnancy on the first try. After all, the chance of multiples was something like 5%.
Two weeks of waiting was torture. We did our best to keep busy. On September 9th we had a positive pregnancy test. On the 22nd we headed in for our first ultrasound. The layout of the room allowed me to see the ultrasound tech’s screen before she turned the monitor on for Diane to see what was happening. Based on what I saw on the screen I knew that we were already up to two babies. However, Diane hadn’t seen anything yet and wasn’t in ‘the know’. When the tech reached up to turn the monitor on for Diane the transducer shifted in just the right direction – and what I saw caused me to say “Was that another one?!”
If you ask Diane she’ll tell you that I screeched. I don’t screech. ;-)
Then the ultrasound tech said ‘let me count’. Sure enough – Baby A, Baby B, and Baby C were suddenly a part of our lives.
The odds were definitely in our favor!