So, we got the big question answered…boys or girls? But there are so many questions that still remain. It’s like a giant puzzle and the answers are revealed piece by piece over a lifetime. We know that we have to pick names for three boys. Those three boys each have ten fingers, ten toes, one nose, two eyes, etc. In fact, this week the hair on their heads is taking on pigment. (Thank you iPad baby app!) There is still a lot to do before they arrive, but the excitement is building. Even on rough days we know that the joy we’re going to experience will be immeasurable.
Who are you?
We know you are three little boys
Who are going to bring us a lot of joy.
Will your hair be red? Your eyes be blue?
We anxiously await meeting you!
Maybe you’re a Sam
Who will love strawberry jam.
Or perhaps your name is Max
And you’ll like playing jacks.
So much fun to be had
With our three little lads.
The possibilities are endless
And our love for you tremendous.
Sometimes people just know you – and you love them for it. Diane visited Joe, Tiffany and Lily for the Thanksgiving holiday. While there, they gave us these adorable Harry Potter themed onesies. Seriously, does it get any cuter than this? If you know Diane and I at all, you know that we truly love Harry Potter. We attended some midnight book release parties, stood in line for hours on movie opening nights, went to movie marathons…but I digress. The gift of these wonderful outfits for the boys means the world to us.
Our lives are filled with generous, heart-felt givers. Some live here in Edwardsville – others are at the far ends of the U.S. – from California to Florida, from Texas to Wisconsin. We are blessed beyond measure with people who want to be a part of the triplet story – even if only through reading posts on Facebook or stories on this blog. For even those people are givers – they give their time to care about what is happening with the boys, and I know in my heart that they send up prayers and good wishes for the birth of three happy, healthy babies.
So, thank you to all of you for being a part of the story. We hope that you will continue to be present as the boys grow. On wingardum leviosa may all of our prayers and positive thoughts rise to fill the hot air balloons of their dreams.
'Twas the week before Christmas and all through the house
The adults were preparing after a triplet ultrasound
The cribs from IKEA were assembled with care
But we hoped that the babies would wait to be there
The puppies were nestled all snug in their beds
With no real idea what lay ahead
So ma with her pillows and me with my throw
Both settled down with iPads aglow
When suddenly we realized the registries were a mess
Cribs needed deleted, unavailable items addressed
Away to the computer we moved in a dash
Threw open the laptop and watched the screen flash
The hourglass spun from an Internet slow
A big sigh ma let out with a blow
When what to my wondering eyes did arrive
But five bars of access, just in time
With little ol’ servers so lively and quick
Target and Amazon worked with each click
More rapid than eagles with cursors they moved
We felt like we had found our groove
Now onesies! Now boppies! Now diapers and wipes!
On blankets! On, pillows! On toys for the tykes!
To the edge of our town! To the mat at our door!
Now bring the goods! Bring the goods! Straight from the store!
So up to our house the items will come
Amazon’s drones will ne’er be done –
The lists on the registries seemed miles long
But caring for babies is never wrong
We spoke no more words, just went back to our chairs
Knowing we’d finished with months to spare
Being thankful for family and friends that we know
We could rest for the holidays without woe
As we watched the twinkling of our holiday lights
We thought “Merry Christmas, and to all a good night!”
I (Connie) felt the babies move for the first time on Saturday evening. I’ve wanted to write about it since it happened, but honestly, when I think about it I kind of go speechless. (I know, hard for you to believe that I’m speechless…lol) But, I’m going to put some thoughts down and we’ll see if they make any sense.
Now, I know that the creation of life can be explained scientifically. We’ve watched the videos – National Geographic was especially informative. But, there are aspects of this phenomenon that, while maybe not miraculous, leave me awestruck. One egg. One sperm. They carry everything needed to create a being so complex that we can’t replicate it with technology – not exactly. Emotions. Reasoning. Fluid movement. But before any of that, three sets of fingers and toes. Three noses. Six eyes and ears. It is a truly amazing process.
Life. It’s a state that distinguishes us from inanimate objects. We are incubating three lives. We will provide the necessities for them to sustain this state.
Live. To have an exciting or fulfilling life. This…we’ll invest the most here – and I don’t mean money or things. We’ll give our hearts and souls to guide them in a manner that allows them to discover how to live.
In this moment, though, I live for the flutters created by their movement and the flutters of excitement in my own stomach when I think about this wild adventure we’re undertaking.
Have you ever created a baby registry? Diane and I decided to create registries at two places: Amazon and Target. We opted for this because most of our family and friends live miles away from us. So, we figured that online shopping would be easier for folks. Prior to our first ultrasound we did some research, found some lists for first time parents. Anyone who knows us will not be surprised that our next step was to create an Excel spreadsheet with items, which we divided into categories like clothes, feeding, travel, etc. The early conversations included a lot of “oh we need one of those”.
Once we found out that three is our magic number we had to revisit that spreadsheet. Diane did more research and found recommendations from other parents of multiples regarding what is needed to care for three babies. Then the conversations changed to Diane saying things like “we need 8 of those per baby” and me saying “seriously?!” and changing the numbers on the spreadsheet. At first it felt a lot like ‘holy cow’. But, then, once the numbers were in the spreadsheet and we actually started creating the registries we saw the silver lining.
Individuals who create a baby registry for one baby have to make A LOT of choices. Which blanket is the cutest? Which bouncer looks like the most fun? What color of onesies do we want? There is great freedom in fewer decisions my friends! Suddenly she picked what she wanted, I picked what I wanted AND we got to pick more – of a lot of things.
There’s a bright side to everything – and when you’re blessed with the magic of three it gets really easy to see.
As Hunger Games fans Diane and I have heard and said this sentence many times. We had no idea how it would play out in our lives until an ultrasound on September 22, 2015. But, let me back up just a bit in the storytelling.
On August 25th, 2015 Diane underwent our first round of artificial insemination. During the two-week waiting period before we could do a pregnancy test she read a lot of information about the chances of success on the first try, having multiples, etc. Logically we thought that having twins would be great. We wanted more than one child and with twins we could accomplish that decision at once. Realistically, though, we knew that there was a possibility that the first attempt would not work. Heck, the second and third attempt might not work. So, we put the idea of multiples out of our heads and focused our hope on a single pregnancy on the first try. After all, the chance of multiples was something like 5%.
Two weeks of waiting was torture. We did our best to keep busy. On September 9th we had a positive pregnancy test. On the 22nd we headed in for our first ultrasound. The layout of the room allowed me to see the ultrasound tech’s screen before she turned the monitor on for Diane to see what was happening. Based on what I saw on the screen I knew that we were already up to two babies. However, Diane hadn’t seen anything yet and wasn’t in ‘the know’. When the tech reached up to turn the monitor on for Diane the transducer shifted in just the right direction – and what I saw caused me to say “Was that another one?!”
If you ask Diane she’ll tell you that I screeched. I don’t screech. ;-)
Then the ultrasound tech said ‘let me count’. Sure enough – Baby A, Baby B, and Baby C were suddenly a part of our lives.
The odds were definitely in our favor!